Lately we've been thinking a lot about rules within the Shop of Possibilities. Since we've opened we've had a laminated set of 'rules' on the wall which the children helped create back in June 2012. Looking at those rules and then looking at the range of different play that happens in the space we were starting to question the relevance and importance of these within the play space.
The rules were:
We have fun
We are nice to each other
We play nicely together
We respect each other
We share
We tidy up after ourselves
We don’t throw things
We don’t use swear words
We don’t shout at each other
We don’t fight with each other
We don’t take things home
We listen to each other
We help each other
Whilst these on the surface all look like perfectly good and sensible rules to have in a children's play environment, when you look a bit closer do they actually get enforced and if they are then does this actually restrict certain types of play? Should there be times when it is ok to shout at each other or to fight with each other? If you have seen some of our previous posts then you'll know that rough play has been a significant theme in some of our
artist projects. So rather than enforcing the 'No Fighting' rule we have stood at a distance, observed and supported this type of play regardless of the rule that was stuck up on the rule throughout this time.
Similarly conflict is another theme that crops up again and again, and as a team we choose to support the children in solving their own conflicts rather than jumping in to solve them on their behalves. So whilst we would all encourage children to listen to each other, play nicely together, share and help each other we also understand that often play involves the opposite to this, sometimes people (and children) just aren't nice to each other. Arguments over who had what first, disputes over someone not being allowed to join in a game won't lead to punishment or being sent home so therefore why are these rules laminated as if set in stone?